Until recently, my husband did not read my blog. Until recently, my husband was not a member of the Buzz. Until recently, my husband did not have a clue what I posted on my blog.

The reason for my husband's original lack of interest was the fact that he thought my blog would take away form the journal I kept for the boys. Although I tried to explain that the blog was a supplement, or even a replacement, he was a skeptic.

Now that I am regular reading for hubs, he can’t get enough of my blog, and has even begun reading many of those that make comments or others he meets on the Buzz.

With my newfound in house fan comes some unexpected criticism.

I added a post yesterday titled "Maybe Mom Was Right". Since I have now deleted said post from my blog you can read it below. I deleted because frankly it wasn’t worth fighting about it.

You see, the "woman" in the story was an in law of mine and my hubs. An in law about my age so that should help narrow the relation down. Hubs felt the certainty that someone would read the post and put it together was high. He felt I made a bad call since I would not address it to her face.

I reminded him about the topic of the post. "She" is obviously not going to read it because she has better things to do. If my MIL read it I think she would agree with me too. Still hubs persisted. "This is not a private journal", "how uncomfortable will you be if she gets wind of this", blah blah blah.

Since I know no one in a notable degree of separation from her will see it here I have posted it here along with comments.

Let me know your thoughts.

When I was younger, my mom would offer advice about friend or boyfriend trouble. The one statement I remember her using a lot back then was "kill them with kindness". Some of you may also remember the one "they are just jealous". I am not a fan of this one because it seems to make me better than the other person where "killing them with kindness" makes me the bigger man for real.

I thought of this the other day when "it" happened. Again. A woman I know, and respect actually, told me she didn't have time for blogs or reading other blogs. With a snide tone she chirped, "I wish I had that much time on my hands".

So I performed a little experiment the next time I saw her. I didn't say anything about the blog, but "my journal". You could say her tune changed. "Oh, I wish I did that, that is so great, the boys will love that one day".

What's the deal? What is the difference between my former hard copy journal and it's on line replacement? I am disappointed that this friend of mine, whom is normally very open minded, is so judgmental about this topic. She and I live similarly busy lives so I am not sure how or why she thinks she is better than me.

I am curious if this prejudice is aimed primarily at work from home or stay at home parents. I am also curious if dads experience it as much as moms.

For now, I will follow my mom's advice. I will be the mistress of death with kindness

Xbox4NappyRash said...
that's just a snotty attitude.

I would get great enjoyment out of point her faux pas out to her.

but then again, I'm just petty.

May 14, 2008 11:30 AM
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Honeybell said...
Wow, the change of tune is interesting. I've found that other than very close friends, non-bloggers just don't get it. I think you have chosen the perfect response . . . but my evil side agrees with xbox4nappyrash!

May 14, 2008 11:47 AM
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Putz said...
oh, no dads don't experience this pnenom at all, it is all unique to you girls, we get praise for blogging for bein sensitive male who are nurturing and not just pruerely providerers

May 14, 2008 1:05 PM
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Law Student Hot Mama said...
Kindness? Blech! I say rip her a new one! (That's a rule out of the Law Student Hot Mama playbook)

May 14, 2008 2:44 PM
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Amy said...
I like this perspective. I think it works out well.

May 14, 2008 7:42 PM
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A Buns Life said...
I wrote about this exact same thing a few months ago. The actual writing isn't what takes so much time, so writing in a journal I guess would be "better" that way....but I need/want the feedback, and the sense of community that no journal is going to give me. That's why I have never been able to maintain a journal. I have learned who I can tell about my blog and who I can't. I would be interested in her reaction if you ended up pointing it out to her. If she is such a good friend, you could do it in a nice way.....
http://bunslife.blogspot.com/2008/03/how-do-you-find-time.html

May 14, 2008 7:46 PM
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The Immoral Matriarch said...
If you don't blog, you don't get it. And I agree with X.

May 14, 2008 9:59 PM

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Heather said...
I think people that don't blog have this picture of mothers sitting at their computers, children ignored, dinner and laundry abandoned. And many bloggers write about how addictive it is and how comments are like crack. I think our inside joking gets out there and shines blogging in a less than flattering light for people that may not understand the joy of it. And that it really is just a modern way to scrapbook.

May 15, 2008 7:46 AM
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