Ok, I'll start my SingleGuy questions with something simpler. When should you give flowers? When shouldn't you? I know, I know, some will say always, some never. Seriously, I've been told that some women want to be surprised randomly. Some want them regularly. Most importantly, are they a good thing after a fight or does it ring hollow?

This should be interesting.....

Keith

I think that flowers really depend on the woman and even the details regarding your relationship. When my dh and I were dating flowers for no reason was a frequent and welcome surprise. Now that we've been married for almost 10 years it's a lot less frequent. But if we've had a fight it's more important to me to receive a sincere apology then flowers. (But really I'd welcome flowers at any time). Honestly though with four kids him pitching in with folding laundry or doing dishes or putting kids to bed without me nagging speaks volumes more than flowers.

I'm afraid every question you ask will have basically the same response. 'Depends'. But I'm sure we'll try to enlighten you anyway. :D

Amber

As Piper said, "Show her that you are thinking about her." That's really all that matters. During my dating career, I was surprised by flowers occasionally and that was lovely. My hubby, however, knows me well enough to know that he should skip the flowers and just bring chocolate. But it really is the THOUGHT behind the flowers, not the flowers themselves, as others have said. So, basically, this is just a really long-winded way of saying "amen" to everything everyone else has said.

However, I suspect that you already KNOW all of this. So get to the REAL questions now, okay? :-D

I have to weigh in on the flowers thing.

Flowers are not cool if you are halfway through a first date and are uncertain about the girl

This comes from personal experience. I was out on a first date with a really nice guy. Halfway through the date, he presented me with fresh flowers from a market stall.

I read this cue to mean: oh, there's some interest here, and there will definitely be more dates.

What he meant was: hrm. I think you're supposed to give a girl flowers on dates.

Imagine my surprise when there were no more dates with this guy? (And for the record, he really was a fantastic guy and we wound up good friends. He was just a little dating-impaired)

Why Brillig and Piper, you think I would start with something really juicy right off the bat?

There's some good stuff, but isn't it about building up some anticipation? Heh heh. ;)

Hahahaha. I never said anything about "juicy"!! I just mean, you're a smart guy. If I'd asked YOU, "when is it appropriate to give a woman flowers?" you would have responded exactly how we all did. Right? :-D

Though, juicy could be really entertaining...

Thanks all! Got it: Steaks, lobsters, potted plants, personal gifts and, for some, flowers.

Now, onto a better question. See single guy question #2!

If you've had a fight you better show up with chocolate. And not some Nestle crap either (nothing says love like chocolate made with child labor), get some good stuff! Throwing in a Starbucks drink vente sized to go with that chocolate wouldn't hurt either!